"Dr Harville Hendrix is an internationally renowned therapist, author and speaker. He co-founded Imago Relationship Therapy with his wife, Dr Helen LaKelly hunt, and in 1988, in his international bestseller Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, he brought this therapeutic theory to the masses. With over thirty-five years' experience as an educator and therapist, he worked with numerous couples to help them create a 'passionate friendship'."
"Having started his early professional life as a minister, Dr Hendrix now sees 'conscious partnership' as a kind of spiritual pursuit in which the wounded self can be restored: 'We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship' (2005, p.xix)."
Gabrielle Gawne-Kelnar spoke with Dr Harville Hendrix when he visited Sydney in 2010. The interview appeared in Talking Therapies, the CAPA Quarterly, Issue 2, 2010.
For more information on Imago Relationship Therapy and Dr Hendrix's work, harvillehendrix.com.
Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples by Harville Hendrix and his other books can be purchased from Amazon.
"When partners use Imago Dialogue, a three-step structured process, to talk to each other, they experience safety in the relationship. Safety is nonnegotiable, and it is created by structure. Safety makes it possible for couples to be vulnerable with each other, drop their guards, open up, and become what we call present to each other. Effectively, when one really listens while the other is talking and removes all forms of negativity about what they are hearing, they create an environment in which the wounds of childhood are healed in their current intimate relationship, and they do not have to do the exploration of their memories, feelings, and thoughts as has been thought in the past one hundred years since therapy was founded. Not only is the inside changed when changes occur on the outside, the past is also healed in the present. And being present to each other without judgment creates emotional equality that contributes to changing the competitive culture in which they were wounded. The personal becomes social and political. Everything is connecting to everything, all the time."
Hunt, Helen LaKelly . Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples: Third Edition . St. Martin's Press. Kindle Edition.